I'm sure every mom wants the best for their child. I am no exception. I imagine most would fight for that, do their best to get it.
I am that mom, today, but also, totally don't want to be that mom.
Having a little problem with the Kindergarten teacher, I am. See, the preschool teacher supposedly was putting in a recommendation for a specific teacher, because she was more nurturing, does better with kids who are not daycare kids, etc. So of coarse I wanted that teacher for my child, and assumed that her recommendation would "make it happen." It did not. Either she did not put in the recommendation as she said she would, or it got lost or overlooked. Whatever. So after a month and a half of talking about Mrs. B, we get the class list saying he has Mrs. A. Ummm... shock-o, and suck-o. I called the principal the next day, who basically said that the classes were already made out so there really wasn't anything she could do, but if something changed over the summer she would keep him in mind.
Fast forward to the beginning of the school year. We have managed to talk up Mrs. A, and B-boy is all ready to go to Kindergarten, maybe even a little excited, with Mrs. A. We go to the pre-school conference, and it was a little weird. She did not greet him, didn't say "welcome to my room", didn't introduce herself to him or me, didn't show us around, just ushered us in and seemed in a hurry to put away his supplies. Well, see, I'VE NEVER MET THIS LADY! And neither had he. So much for first impressions. She showed him where to put his stuff, then talked to me about the snack schedule and signing up to chaperone and all that lovely stuff. Then sent us on our way. I walked away feeling.... unsettled.
Today, first day of school, I drop him off. We walk into the classroom, which is oddly quiet for kindergarteners, and she barely says hi, no good morning or anything, takes his folder, then walks away, leaving us to stand there, not knowing what to do next. No direction, doesn't really even pay us any attention. Doesn't show him where to sit or say what they're doing. So, seeing the other children are coloring, I look for his box, and then say "let's look for your seat." She's by us now, and hears my comment about how another boy is in his spot so she switches around the name cards, and then again walks away. I stand there a minute, make sure he's fine, and leave. But I want to cry? Is she really taking care of him and his needs on this first day of a new thing? Is she making sure he's ok, feels confident, safe?
So now what? Do I say something to her? Do I explain to her that he had a rough time in preschool and that it's very important to me that he have a great start here? That it's important to me that he want to be there? That I need her to do the best she can to help make that happen? Nurturuing, encouraging, enthusiastic, motivating? Do I say something today? Tomorrow? Next week? Do I talk to the principal again about switching teachers? Is that too traumatic for my child? Do I just let it go and hope for the best? Is it just me who needs my hand held?
Any other grade, I would say, Make lemonade out of lemons, this is a life lesson in how to get along with people you may not like a whole lot. But for kindergarten? No. This is his introduction to the next 12 years of his life. And it's important to me that it's a good one. So please pardon the mama-lion coming out in me. This is, after all, my first born child. And I'm new to this too.
Can anyone offer any help? Comments? Thoughts? Suggestions? Please?